Summary of last year

I wrote this for my friend Sharon who is not on social media and I had to bring her up-to-date on the situation. I thought this was a pretty good summary:

Larry left one night last fall after Alana confronted him about going to bars without a mask (he had become quite the bar fly in the last few years). He said he would get a covid test to put everyone's mind at ease. Then I didn't hear from him and he wouldn't answer the phone when I called. It turns out he had immediately moved in with his girlfriend, who he had been seeing for many months. I found out about that when they posted a photo on Facebook. Yes, that really happened after 26 years of marriage. After 2 weeks of no communication, I called a lawyer. Larry came to get his clothes and motorcycle from the house and otherwise moved on without a backward glance. I cleared out the house we bought together, and lived in for 15 years, without any help from him. We negotiated our "uncontested" (no fault) divorce via emails with the lawyer. We never had a conversation and he has never offered an explanation of any kind, let alone an apology. Our divorce was final in April. I'm still sort of reeling. He has barely spoken to the kids, including Matt, and hasn't seen any of them. Alana graduated from HS and Cal turned 21 this year - they each got a text from him. He doesn't even talk to his mother anymore. He and I had been running along different paths for quite some time, so I had been wondering if we would separate when Alana graduated from HS in June 2021. I did not expect him to just set himself up with a new life without once suggesting that he wanted our marriage to end. It was positively surreal. I bought another (much smaller) house in Syracuse before I was offered the job in ND and Alana is living there now. Caleb is continuing to work at the Texas Roadhouse in Syracuse, but he never sees Larry, whose restaurant is in Watertown (where Larry lives now). Honestly, I am happy to be done with Larry. He hasn't made me happy, nor attempted to, for a very long time. He spent no time with me or the kids, and hadn't really been involved in our family life for many years. I guess I was just holding out hope that things would get better at some point. When we got married, I never, ever imagined he would turn into the selfish, careless person he is now. I had to tell everyone myself - our friends, his family, everyone, and of course they were all stunned.