What a hypocrite!

KINDNESS  is the defining quality of Judaism???  That is such a joke coming from you.  I had to bite my lip to keep from laughing out loud.  That certainly wasn't discernible in your approach to me- judgement and hatefulness is all you offered me.  And that's not the way other people see you either, that's for sure.  Control freak, definitely.  Kindness incarnate, not so much.